datjermHey! I’m Jeremy :) Nice to meet you, fellow visitor from the interwebs. This is my little home here where I write about my journey in life. This includes what it is like to be divorced after 14 years of marriage, seeing a whole world of people experiencing twin flame challenges and being a leader and guide in that space, sharing my creations (books, games, apps), and sharing thoughts of writing for leadership, inspiration, and living a life that you decide. Thanks for stopping by and joining me!

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    1. I am enjoying to read about what you have learning and sharing,can you add me on Skype as lin Jefferson, thanks Jeremy.

    2. Everything you say is true about twin flames . I would think it’s crazy if I read any articles before it happened to me . I met mine when he was separated from his wife , but he is currently working out , I know he isn’t happy . We go back and forth . I’m not going to chase him . I’m working on me and being happy .

      1. @Amy everett

        Good, work on yourself, don’t chase, and realize it’s an awesome life-changing experience. Accept it for what it is.

        Then, follow the steps I outline in my article on it. You’ll come out on the other side the most amazing person :) Just to recap, the steps are:

        * Stop ALL contact with the other person. This means deleting them from Facebook, your email, your phone, EVERYTHING. You cannot make progress if you are dwelling on them.

        * Begin to spend time alone to feel your emotions. Cry your eyes out for as long as you need to. Start to work out again if you haven’t been. Get your body in the best shape of your life.

        * Eat healthy foods if you haven’t been. Avocados, watermelon, and other fruits, vegetables, and life giving foods.

        * Begin to read books that interest you. Take on old hobbies that you may have neglected due to this other person. Find something bigger than yourself to do for your life.

        * Focus on your own self love and self improvement. You must become so strong from within that you don’t ever need this person in your life again. This will also help with future interactions with others.

        * You’ll likely never forget this other person. They may even reach out again. If you feel ready to talk again, talk, but don’t ever settle and allow someone to be in your life who isn’t happily enthusiastic about what is going on for you. If at any time they disconnect, flake, or become uncertain, go back to no contact with them.

        1. Hi Jeremy: This is helping me right now, thank you. After getting dumped and no contact for 4 months and me doing lots of internal work, I get an email at Xmas saying he is “thinking about me”and hoping I’ll drop in to see his house of lights, whatever….spiral into despair. Pathetic. I send a kind, polite but clear message that I am no “friend with benefits”. Then 2 weeks later, I send another email saying I’ll be driving by next week and would like to see him. Nothing. Argh!!!!!!!!!Hurting. Gave up my power too but that’s only ego, right? Mau

          1. @Mau – Hey – your energy and attitude here need some work along with you keeping your word to yourself. If you don’t want what he’s giving you, don’t text him saying you want to see him. This is in-congruent. That kind of behavior is poisonous. Sounds like you learned a few things, but then your energy went bad. Feel what you need to, but don’t use my comments to vent your frustration. Instead, focus on you and becoming better and channeling your energy in better pursuits while having integrity with yourself and your standards.

            You should never give someone 2 seconds who plays around with you like that and that includes the giving of your thoughts. Now go hit the gym, read, and have a good time.

        2. Hi I stumbled upon your TF article and thank you very much for sharing your story. I recently told my family about the whole situation and they were shocked. I can’t even say this person’s anymore without physically getting ill. He just got married…ugh. The whole thing makes me sick to my stomach. I had my sister create a fake IG when she reports shit to me. That MF is acting like Tom Cruise on Oprah. It’s disgusting…and very atypical. I wish this never happened to me. He’s from a super rich family in Nigeria l, while my family (Nigerian also) is barely middle class. In Nigeria, rich people marry other rich people. I was feeling better but the IG thing freaked me out big time. My sister was like he put EVERYTHING on IG…how they met, proposal (barf). He claims that she’s the best thing since slice bread. I’m working with a professional to recover. I’m also working to get in better shape again. Idk how the runners are able to live “normally.” It’s crazy and maddening! I’d like to email you to discuss as your site is a good resource.

          1. @Naijagirl – Hey. Focus on your language. When you can speak about it from a place of peace and love, you’ll know your test is complete. Focus on you and your growth, not on what you don’t like about the situation. Light and love to you.

            1. Thank you! I just feel so angry and hurt. I never asked for this. I want nothing but the best for him…but I can’t help but wonder why me? The last thing wanted is to feel like this…

    3. Hi There, stumbled upon your page while looking for content for encouraging others at work. Your site has intrigued me. I’ve bookmarked it for later reading. :)

      Cheers, have a wonderful evening/day!

    4. Hi Jeremy,
      I loved your post on your TF experience. It’s good for me to see your perspective as the chaser. Being a runner is just as terrible in my experience. Being a wounded soul is a hard recovery.

      I wish you all the best in your journey.

      Be well

      1. @Jen – Thank you for your thoughtful reply :) Yes, this about sums up my experience as the chaser. I think it’s the most growth oriented place to be in the dynamic and if you use it as a way to become a stronger version of yourself, you’ll be forever changed in a positive way.

        I wish I had more feedback from runners. Are you a runner? If so, what is that like?

        1. I am the “runner”. There is so much fear. We know what we are-have known for close to 9 years. He feels with compassion, kindness and much patience things will work out. If you have specific questions, you are welcome to email me. Your TF post was sincere and open-That’s a beautiful thing.

          I love that your kid(s) post to you. :)

          Be well,

          1. @Jen – Thanks for responding. Wow, a runner wanting to talk. This is really great news. I am going to email you and let’s talk. And yes, my kids look at my website every so often and post to me – it’s very cute :)

      1. Hi Jeremy

        I’ve been the chaser now for 4 months & made myself look a fool as a man.Im 46 divorced after 15 years then bang!!! I found my other half…3 years later I’m here writing..makes no sense.This situation of absolute complete black out on all communication has from her has hurt like nothing before.i read your piece on your journey with your twin flame just now & after all the stuff I’ve been googling last four months yours has given me courage to say I’m better than this..but then there’s still that but that loves her like no other.It got to the point that she had the police come round as in to stop trying to contact her the other day…WTF why can’t she just communicate even in a letter to stop this crap..just don’t get her.My dear sister rung her day before & I said to my sister was any of it real & does she still love me.the reply it was real but something snapped when I said something before we split & she doesn’t love me now.So am I wrong that in thinking if you ‘did’ love someone you have the decency to tell that person why you don’t now so they can move on rather than bang!!!!!! No contact.her circumstances & set up in life are complicated as in rich husband even though they are split is always selling the global company’s to finalise the divorce.yes I wanted her free & him not governing her life ….but she’s ran now back into the bubble rather than facing her inner character defects which we both have.her memory of me now though with her friends & family is how I’ve been a fool in begging yes begging for us to find a way back.its made me feel so weak and pathetic as a man.Well thank you for your site there is plenty on here I can learn from.From a fellow old warrior
        Simon from London

        1. Hi Simon,
          I am not Jeremy but I too have found my twin. I speak from a female perspective.
          I also went through the runner-chaser phenomenon, with me primarily being the chaser.
          The truth is you have to quit the chasing. Stop ALL contact with your twin. right now. Just quit it. You are not helping yourself in any way. it will NEVER bring her back to you.
          Twins need to be whole in themselves in order to be together. I know its hard, but you need to work on yourself. This is exactly what Jeremy talks about in his blog. You need to find your true essence and soul purpose in this lifetime before reuniting with your twin. It seems that your twin is drenched in heavy karma, which she needs to as well resolve before she comes running back to you.
          Chasing after someone is a sign of neediness and lack of self-content. By the way, all of the pain you are experiencing which you claim is from her ignoring you has actually NOTHING to do with your twin. Your twin is literally a mirror of your soul and reflects all of the gunk inside of it. Twins will bring out years of pain, unresolved inner conflicts and emotional problems. Abandonment issues. Lack of self-love. Childhood trauma.

          Mostly lack of self-love. People chase their twins because they do not love themselves enough. They think their twin is the answer but it isn’t. You need to ask yourself, what do you love? what excites you, inspires you?

          She will go through her journey in the meantime. The more you chase, the more she runs, and the more both of your journeys get delayed. You want reunion? Do the inner work. Talk to a psychologist. Focus on yourself and what makes you happy. Live to your truest potential.

    5. Hello Jeremy. I just wanted to say thank you for your youtube videos; I’ve watched many TF videos so far, but yours are the best. I’ve got a question: do you have any knowledge or experience on synchrinicity when it comes to TF?

    6. Hi, I’m interested in your video game experience, C#, cshtml and files/pics about your “dungeon tiles & creatures” project. Would you share them with me?

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