The Power Of Positive Self Talk In Conquering Demons Of Negativity

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“Time to throw up again, let’s see if I can get it all in one go!” — “I wonder how many germs are lurking inside me?” … See why saying things like this can be helpful to you as you read on.

When I saw that this article title wrapped to THREE lines, I felt negative feelings due to its not fitting in nicely (Negativity being on its own line). But then I looked at the picture of that balrog demon I found and said to myself, “That demon sure is cool” and the negativity was crushed like a bug.

I first wrote about Positive Self Talk a year and a half ago (on another website). But this is an evolved mention of it. Do you believe you can cure negativity by talking positively to yourself? The goal here is to learn about situations and strategies for using positive self talk to give you favorable outcomes in otherwise dreadful situations (i.e. conquer that demon you see there at the top). If you find yourself or your friends being negative, this is definitely for you.

Some potentially dreadful situations needing positive self talk

  • You were just informed you have a herniated disc in your lower spine.
  • You just lost a bunch of money in the stock market.
  • You just got dumped by someone you care about.
  • You are driving to a job you can’t stand.
  • You feel angry at someone who offended you.
  • You feel sick.
  • You’re stuck at an airport because your flight has been delayed for a while.
  • You have to get up and speak in front of a group of people.
  • You just realized you didn’t backup your files and your computer died.
  • You feel lonely and unloved.
  • Your business is not doing very well.

What other situations would you add to this? I’m sure there are plenty of other situations which are just dreadful.

Decide to be optimistic and positive

What happens to you when you face a daunting situation? Is your first reaction to say, “This Sucks?” If it is, then my first strategy for you is to sit down, put your hand on your chin and say this, “Maybe there is something else I can say other than ‘This Sucks’.” After doing that, decide you will say something else. But don’t just decide this one time. Every morning you wake up, spend one minute – that’s right just one minute telling yourself you will be optimistic and positive.

Learn and customize positive self talk phrases

Have you decided to be optimistic and positive? The next step is to decide what you will say to yourself instead. I will add some examples for the above situations as well as some general examples for you to start with. But then you must create your own positive self talk dialog which you will recite to yourself frequently.

  • You were just informed you have a herniated disc in your lower spine.
    “Looks like I get to learn about how my back works now. This will come in handy.”
  • You just lost a bunch of money in the stock market.
    “Let’s see what went wrong.” — “Everyone makes mistakes and many have lost more than I have – I will do better next time.”
  • You just got dumped by someone you care about.
    “It’s their loss. I am a wonderful person.” — “I know I will find someone much better in the future who meets my standards.”
  • You are driving to a job you can’t stand.
    “It’s time for me to excel today. Whatever I have to do, I will do it better than anyone else.” — “I’m going to make someone smile today.”
  • You feel angry at someone who offended you.
    “I want to understand this person better.” — “I am a confident person. What people say will not affect me.”
  • You feel sick.
    “Time to throw up again, let’s see if I can get it all in one go!” — “I wonder how many germs are lurking inside me?” — “This will end soon and I will be stronger.”
  • You’re stuck at an airport because your flight has been delayed for a while.
    “It’s time to meet some people in this airport.” — “Good, this is time to gather my thoughts and meditate.”
  • You have to get up and speak in front of a group of people.
    “This is awesome, I get to share what I think with other people!” — “These people will love my unique personality.”
  • You just realized you didn’t backup your files and your computer died.
    “Lesson learned, I am more intelligent now.” — “I’m sure I will recover and more from this.” — “That was silly of me.”
  • You feel lonely and unloved.
    “I really am special and unique.” — “It’s time to contribute to the world.” — “I love who I am.”
  • Your business is not doing very well.
    “What can I do to add value?” — “How can I serve?” — “How can I entertain?” — “I will double my efforts and recommit myself.”

General positive self talk

Your positive self talk should focus on the good in situations, the humor, what you can do to improve, and be the opposite of whatever negative thought you were having. If you sit down and just think whenever you have a negative thought what the opposite is, you can start creating a list of positive self talk dialog to carry around with you. Focus on contributing, smiling, improving yourself, and then create short sentences which reinforce this. Such as the following:

  • I am confident and love challenges.
  • I offer my unique personality to everyone I come in contact with.
  • It’s time to accomplish something today.
  • I accept the things I cannot change and look forward to improving what I can.
  • Nothing can stop me, I am a leader and force of good.

Catch yourself when you feel the negativity coming on

The strategy here is to stop everything you are doing when a negative thought creeps in. When this happens, take a notebook out (or something to record in) and make permanent your new positive dialog which will replace what you just said. So “This Sucks” becomes “What can I learn from this?” as an example. Soon you’ll have an army of new positive things to say which you can use at any time.

I will always recommend this book for positive self talk – it will serve you well as a pocket guide for positive self talk.

How will this help you? Simply put, you will have a new outlook on life. Certain things won’t stress you out. You’ll be healthier and happier, which is a huge benefit! There are examples here of dreadful situations. Did you think of more situations? You’ve been given some tools and strategies for using positive self talk now. What will you do with them? Do you believe positive self talk works?

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4 thoughts on “The Power Of Positive Self Talk In Conquering Demons Of Negativity

  1. I work in a jail as an addiction counselor. The men and women that I work with adr norally depressed. I ran inot your work and am excited about giving it a try this week.

  2. I Have panic disorder and it makes me nauseaous, What can I say to myself to fight back this problem I.ve had it for years

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