There’s an article I was recommended to by a friend of mine HERE. I’ve had some time to think about it – really think about it and I’d like to share my thoughts now. The article on Thought Catalog is shared from a woman’s point of view who went through heart break with a love that can only be described as intense, chaotic, and turbulent. The title of it is, “Why I Hope My Ex Was A Once-In-A-Lifetime Kind Of Love”. She describes the love she shared with her ex boyfriend as raw, passionate, all-encompassing, and emotional. Her conclusion is that she doesn’t want that kind of love again because it was too much for her.
It’s This Kind of Love or Bust For Me
As I’ve had time to think about this now, I realize that this is the only kind of love I want. I don’t want mediocre. I don’t want safe. I’ve had safe. It turns you into roommates. I’ve also had the kind of love described here. It completely transformed me, my life direction, and who I am today.
I haven’t talked about twin flames in a long time, but that meaning – that frame of reference fits the theme of this kind of love. Deep connection that completely turns your life upside down. I can’t do anything but that. It’s so transformative. It compels you to look at yourself and to become the next strongest version of yourself.
I spent 7 long months getting over the disconnect from that kind of love last year. It was the most intense and difficult 7 months of my life, but it transformed me into a new person – a stronger and more enlightened version of myself. And I realized that that new person was still just a rookie in life, barely scratching the surface of his potential and strength.
This kind of love enhances you. I think when you first experience this kind of love, you probably won’t be able to handle it. You’ll discover all your weaknesses and insecurities. And the love you have with whoever it is that is intense will probably end. Because one or both of you aren’t ready for it. You can’t handle it. However, if you do the work on yourself to understand it and to strengthen yourself, I believe you can be ready for it in the future, either with them again or someone else.
My response to this article is best summed up by this image below. This is what I think about that article. I don’t agree with the author. She’s just playing it safe because she’s afraid to get hurt again. Nobody wants to get hurt. There is no reward without risk. I cannot do mediocre. I want this deep and passionate love – even if I get hurt again – because I know I will learn lessons and become an even stronger version of myself.
If I feel mediocre occurring in any potential relationship interaction with someone, I feel completely turned off, regardless of how beautiful or amazing I think that person is. I won’t ever do mediocre and I’ll walk away and never look back if that’s all that is going to occur.