The Limiting Belief That You’re Not Supposed to Have It

flying_humming_birdI’ve been replaying the tapes back over and over from the last 9 months. It all started like a new software program in my mind that booted up at around 1:00 AM last night. A flood of memories and playback has been going on and I am at its mercy to let it playback in my mind. It’s as if someone has started up some software in my brain and I am compelled to replay back everything. Has this ever happened to you? You’re just sitting there and all of a sudden, your brain forces you to FACE EVERYTHING and own up to it?

That’s what is happening to me right now. As I listen to other coaches who are my mentors, one theme popped up that resonated with me. It’s the limiting belief that you’re not supposed to have it. This really hit home for me… Here’s why: Sometimes in your life, something will show up that is beyond anything you’ve experienced. If it is something beyond whatever you’ve experienced and you have experiences that are greater than anything you’ve ever had, there’s a chance a limiting belief may kick in – and that is that you’re not supposed to have it. What happens if this is the case?

You’ll say and do things to sabotage it

This would have been good to know much earlier. When something is beyond what you’ve experienced, it means that you were ready for it and asked for it. However, deep down, you may not have been ready for it at all. If this is the case you’ll try and sabotage that thing that happened.

Think of it like being asked to go speak in front of a group of 100 people. You are asked to share your wisdom on how to do the one thing you’re good at – maybe it’s programming, speaking, or making cats meow. Whatever it is, this is a wonderful opportunity. However, if it’s something you’re not ready for or don’t think you can handle, you’ll find ways to back out of it. You might say things like this:

  • I don’t think I’m the right person for this.
  • I won’t really do a good job – 100 people is a lot.
  • I probably need to wait a few months until I get better.
  • I’m sure there’s someone else better than me.

All of these excuses are utter horse shit. You’re just as qualified to talk about anything about your expertise as anyone else. The opportunity is there and your own belief that you’re not good enough or that you don’t deserve it will cause you to say and do things that fuck it up.

I know this because I’ve done it. I can look back and I’m really pissed off at myself. Why would I say and do anything to ruin a good thing? I feel like I need to get slapped in the face 7,000 times. I’m a good rockin’ man and I deserve whatever the universe presents to me. Ah, the retrospection of the past.

Live like you deserve it

The best thing you can do if you’ve realized you sabotaged a good thing in your life is to recognize that you fucked it up. But then realize that whatever came into your life did so for a reason. It did so because of the person you are. It did so because sub-consciously you were looking for it. It did so because you deserve it and even though your own mortality and imperfections screwed it up, you can now change course like this sail boat here and live like you deserve it.


Jim Rohn, one of my great mentors said – our philosophy is like the set of the sail. You can’t control the winds that come at you – but you can control how you adjust your sails. This is living like you deserve it. It’s simply a philosophy of life. And I know my qualities – and my imperfections. I know I deserve something freakin’ amazing in my life and I speak to the world and the universe in such a way that that is what I get. I can see what I want – I know all the qualities about it – and what I will do when such a thing presents itself to me and I have no reservations about some of my thoughts going through my mind as I picture it!

So for you reading this – live your life in such a way that you deserve it. Speak with power and authority. Create and do things that nobody else is or willing to do. When the universe presents you with something, don’t be a dumb-ass and say and do things to drive it away, but instead embrace the gift. You deserve whatever you get for the person you are.

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