In the computer role playing game, Planescape Torment, there is a deep philosophical question that is asked of the main character, The Nameless One. He ponders the question, “What Can Change the Nature of a Man?” It is indeed a deep question when you think about it. This video shows the fate of our hero as he descends for a time for the sentence for the crimes he committed. To answer this question, I’ll share what the power of the twin flame is.
The Twin Flame
A twin flame is an instant soul connection with someone where you recognize them immediately and feel like you have known them before. You will click and understand each other – complete each other’s sentences, have a desire to share anything and everything with each other, and everything you thought about life and its meaning will be turned upside down. Rest assured, there is nothing wrong with you when you feel this connection. It is a rare event in life.
You will get along extremely well, but the connection will be so intense that there will eventually be fear, doubts, questions, preconceived ideals/beliefs, and ego getting in the way of it. More than likely, one of you will choose to disconnect from the other (the runner). This will burn the soul of the other, but they will survive as the love and care they have will outweigh the pain and eventually squash it out completely. But this will take much time for the one disconnected from.
The separation is so that each person can take care of the things in their own life and learn, grow, create, and become a better human being. It is because the connection is too intense for each person in their current state that separation occurs. Often times, the one trying to reconnect (the chaser) will do irrational things and have a hard time accepting that the runner wants no contact whatsoever. The runner may even be forceful in saying they don’t ever want to talk to you again whatsoever and such was the case for me. I thought this would make me not care for this person anymore, but the care remains on to this day.
As a chaser, you are in a state that is weak, needy, and insecure. You must forget about this person you are chasing and do work on yourself. This means amplifying your career, getting in the best physical condition you’ve ever been in, eating healthy, improving your skills, finding new and interesting hobbies – or rekindling old hobbies. Get out there and meet other people and learn to live your life without ever needing this person again. Then you will be like an immovable mountain and live your life from a place of strength. This is your gift to yourself and this experience helped bring it about.
What can change the nature of a man? This can – it did for me in more ways than I can count. I used to think of it as an honor to walk the earth with them, but now feel that they were the catalyst for my true self and I am thankful to them for the experiences we shared together.
Sensing From Afar
You will think you can sense this person from afar because of how much you feel invested in this person. Maybe there is some way to do that, but I don’t know for sure. Here’s what I wrote many months ago when my emotions were really heightened:
When you meet this twin flame, you can sense the emotions of this person from afar. I can sense their intentions, feelings, and mood. I can sense that they have made a permanent residence where they now reside many miles away so as to distance them self, but have since come back. These are all things I can sense without even speaking to them. You will have dreams with them in it and feel their presence when they are not around. Mostly, it will take a long time to stop thinking about them all the time. You will be able to speak to each other not through words, but through more of an invisible cord that is forever connected between the two of you. Each of you will try to sever the cord but will be unable to do so and so it simply becomes something you accept.
You’ll find a period of immeasurable growth happen if you are the one who was distanced from. You will learn to function independently as a conscious human being without reliance on anyone. You’ll find yourself writing, speaking, and doing things you never thought possible. It is all fueled by the spiritual experience and love and care you give to them and the situation.
For me, in the last 6 months, I’m a new man from who I was at the beginning of the year. I’m privileged to have had the time to converse and get to know this person and feel so thankful for that time. I feel nothing but care and respect for them. At work, I continue to accelerate in my career path and my communication and interfacing with upper management.
I’ve written nearly every day for the last 4 months on my website. I’ve opened myself up completely and made myself utterly vulnerable with my thoughts and feelings. It’s caused some people to lash out at me and others to wonder what is wrong with me. Until you’ve met someone in your life and experience this invisible cord and connection, you can’t understand. Only those I’ve talked to online about this connection and who have experienced it themselves truly know.
Life Will Never Be the Same
What can change the nature of a man? This. My life will never be the same. I’m no longer leaning toward atheism as my primary belief system. I believe strongly now that there are people we’ve known before this life and there are lessons to be learned through our experiences with them. If you are fortunate enough to meet your twin flame, you’ll experience and grow in ways you never thought possible. Through it all, I feel like the fiery phoenix who is now on his true course in life.
There’s plenty on the Internet about twin flame’s and new age philosophy. I don’t necessarily have anything to say about that – for me, it’s more of a practical evidence thing. All the things that have happened and how everything has played out make it what it is to me. It’s something I’m eternally grateful for.
The power of the twin flame is that you both are forever bonded and enhanced in your capabilities in life. If you both were ever to work together for a common cause, you would set the world on a new course for good, the strength is that powerful.
I said the following below at the time I wrote this, but have since changed my philosophy as a man. If a woman doesn’t want to enthusiastically be in your life – even someone you think is your other half, send them off, and get on with living your mission, vision, and passion. Either way, here is what I wrote in the past:
To you, my twin flame, I say, wherever you are, I wish you happiness ten times over. There are no words needed to communicate. You may never ever see what I write here, but I write it anyway. Thank you for being the person you are and for helping me grow into the person I was meant to be. Until our next meeting in this life or the next.
The Lessons of the Twin Flame
There are many comments below regarding this subject. With everyone’s situations, there are some common themes. You meet someone, feel an intense connection, feel like you’ve come home, and you become drawn to the person immensely. There is a period of giving and loving that takes place without fear and attachment.
Eventually, something happens to break this pattern. Usually, it is the guy who runs away or begins to act in a puzzling manner (for me, it was the opposite – I became unglued). Then there is a period of disconnect with possible interaction again.
In the end, the one who cares the most, the one who chases after the other is devastated and in great pain. For those of you who have questions or want advice, here is my advice for you:
- Stop ALL contact with the other person. This means deleting them from Facebook, your email, your phone, EVERYTHING. You cannot make progress if you are dwelling on them.
- Begin to spend time alone to feel your emotions. Cry your eyes out for as long as you need to.
- Start to work out again if you haven’t been. Get your body in the best shape of your life.
- Eat healthy foods if you haven’t been. Avocados, watermelon, and other fruits, vegetables, and life giving foods.
- Begin to read books that interest you. Take on old hobbies that you may have neglected due to this other person. Find something bigger than yourself to do for your life.
- Focus on your own self love and self improvement. You must become so strong from within that you don’t ever need this person in your life again. This will also help with future interactions with others.
- You’ll likely never forget this other person. They may even reach out again. If you feel ready to talk again, talk, but don’t ever settle and allow someone to be in your life who isn’t happily enthusiastic about what is going on for you. If at any time they disconnect, flake, or become uncertain, go back to no contact with them.
Update (4/5/2015): I was in brief contact with the one mentioned in this article for about a week and a half. Thankfully, I am the next strongest version of myself, so when I felt them beginning to disconnect again, I was able to withstand it and recognize my own self worth and that I only want people in my life who are enthusiastic to be in it – even the twin flame.
Update (7/28/2015): I feel a very calming sense of peace with this situation. It took some effort, but I found a way to move on from the connection with this person, though I still think about them daily. It seems my interaction with them is at an end and I wish them the best in their life.
Update (10/2/2015): You don’t really move on from these connections as I stated on 7/28/2015. I tried to tell myself that I found a way to move on from it. That’s not true. The better way to word it is I have found a way to withstand the connection and operate from a place of strength. I can handle the bond and connection now. It still seems my interaction with this person is at an end, however.
Update (1/25/2016): I’ve experienced a rebirth. The best way to describe this is I am incredibly happy, feel at peace, and seek my validation from within for myself. I am happy when I do what I feel inside. I post this update because I have fully surrendered myself from the experience described here.
Have you met your twin flame in this life? You’ll know it when you feel the deepest soul connection you’ve ever felt with another human. You’ll recognize this person the instant you see their name or talk to them in person. What has your experience been like with them? Are you in separation right now or in communication? Share your experience in the comments below.
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