Remembering Everett

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We lost one of our cats today, Everett. He was one of 5 cats born to Sneaker in our house about 7 1/2 years ago. A picture of him just before he died, as well as him as a young kitten are shown here. He had a heart problem that surfaced recently and we made the decision to put him to sleep this morning. Later today, we buried him and had our own family funeral service.

A co-worker, on another team, died last week as well. I’m revisited by when my wife’s step mom died and the focus on how short life is. I’ve seen plenty of cats dead along the side of the road and yet realize that when you are close to an animal, like our cat Everett, it has a much different effect. I feel more empathy now for pet owners who lose their pets and also look back wishing I had paid a little more attention and exercised more care, than I did to Everett.

He was a happy cat with an extraordinarily loud meow. Quite often he’d meow and then I’d meow back at him. That would continue for many minutes at a time as the meow tone kept getting louder and louder. I feel like he had a good home and he was surrounded by those who loved him at the end on the vet table, where you see a picture of him minutes before he was injected and put to sleep for good.

My wife has a special connection to our cats, more than I do. With my sorrow, I can only imagine how difficult this must be for her. Even the death of a pet is having a big effect on me and where I’m putting my thoughts and focus today. I can only imagine what it is like to lose those close to us who are our fellow human beings.

I’m given perspective today. So often I get focused on building and creating things, along with preserving wealth, that I forget that life is presently finite and that each and every moment may be our last. I will look to do better in the department of providing emotional feeling and connection with those close to me, even the other 3 cats which we still have: Sneaker, Dido, and Ator. Life is this crazy chaotic journey and it can end so suddenly.

Everett was barely alive before he was injected and died. It was only a couple seconds before his body went lifeless. I’m brought back to a current quest of mine to understand the true nature of reality. On the one hand, I could see it as Everett being shut off and gone for good. On the other hand, I hope I get to see him again, pet him, and have another meowing contest with him. I don’t know what the future will hold. Moving forward, I’ll seek to be more compassionate and make the most of each moment of every day.

RIP Everett, one of your owners,

Jeremy

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4 thoughts on “Remembering Everett

  1. So sorry to hear of your cat’s passing, Jeremy. My favorite dog Shadow died on Easter Sunday over a decade ago (car hit and run), and although I only had that dog for about 3 years, it still breaks my heart to think about him too long. So I just avoid thinking about him. It’s awful and I know exactly what your family is feeling even though some people may think it’s silly to grieve over pets.

    I have a 10-year old cat now, that I have had since he was a blind 3-week old, and I can’t bear to think of when he is gone. Heck, if he disappears for more than a few hours and I can’t find him, I start getting heart palpitations. It sounds stupid but I don’t care.

    Sorry again for your loss and you bring up a great point about being compassionate and living in the moment.

    As a side (completely unrelated) note, your girls are getting so big, it’s crazy. WOW! And they are gorgeous too.

    1. Valerie – it was tough to lose Everett, just because it was so sudden and in a day or so, he had to be put to sleep. To see such a happy cat go from that to pain and hardly being able to move was gut wrenching and a test for all of us.

      I feel the same way about our pets as you do about your cat. I want to make sure they (and our kids) are ok at all times. Having Everett gone now and knowing he’s not coming back is the feeling like there’s a hole that can’t be filled. I have all the memories only now.

      And yes, the girls are growing up so fast and getting big. Soon they’ll be driving a car I bet…

  2. I had a cat from the time I was 9 or 10 or so when we got him from a vet; the vet had saved him from a dumpster! I grew up with him until he passed away a few years ago; I still miss him even now, and wish I had more than just a few photos to remember him by and that he could actually be around again.

    I don’t know what happens in the future either, but it also helps to remind me of the finite nature of things, and that we have to appreciate each and every moment. Both you and your family and Everett at least got to spend many years of joy together, and you’ll always have those memories to remember him by.

    1. Hey Kevin – what an interesting story for the vet to have saved a cat in a dumpster. I can’t imagine doing such a thing to an animal, but I suppose some people get desperate or crazy enough.

      I think there is something to the finite nature of things that helps us focus on what is important, although with technology advances, I could see there being a shift in that as life spans continue to increase (so long as people don’t destroy their own bodies).

      I do think of the time we got to spend with Everett, and that is comforting. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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