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Wheel Of Fear

Wheel of Fortune is a simple, yet entertaining television program. In it, Pat Sajak and Vanna White host a wheel spinning game show where contestants earn money by guessing the letters from a ‘game board’. Each correct guess nets the money or prize that was ‘spun’. However, contestants can also spin the wheel and go ‘bankrupt’, taking all the money they won that round. I think for those of us who are looking to become more than we are, creating a wheel of fear is a logical step.

The wheel of fear is simply this: it is a list of things that we are presently uncomfortable with and that would require us to go well outside of ourselves to do. I’ll use myself as an example. Here’s a list of things I absolutely know I am uncomfortable doing as of right now.

  • Singing a solo in front of my wife or any group of people. Funny enough, I do believe I’m ok at singing as I’ve done it in the shower and in the car before.
  • Setting up a one on one meeting with our CTO here at work.
  • Attending a Steve Pavlina or Tony Robbins live event.
  • Interview a random person using a video camera, at a mall, restaurant, or other public location.
  • Create, setup, and present a life change/personal growth workshop at an event center nearby.
  • Start working out daily since it’s been over four months after my lower back surgery.
  • Ride a roller coaster.

I’m not sure what your list looks like. But this is mine. The next step is to put all of these on a wheel. This is a small spinning wheel, like in Wheel of Fortune. You want a spinner and the ability to ‘flick’ the spinner and have it go round and round until it lands on one of these items. That is the item you will then set out to do. For small discomforts, two weeks. For the bigger ones, you may have to schedule even a year in advance.

What are the things you’re afraid of? What makes you uncomfortable? Just search growth through being uncomfortable in any major search engine and you can see that this is a topic discussed amongst the personal growth community.

I say we put it to the test. I’m going to put these on a wheel and spin away. Once I have the wheel created, I’ll do another post and probably a live video where I share the results of the spin. Then I’ll update as I go and tackle this great fear. If you are as interested in growing as a human being as I am, then I hope you’ll take the opportunity to create your own wheel of fear and go after it.

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself” — Franklin D. Roosevelt

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Eating To Starve Cancer

I, like many of you, know people who have been affected one way or another by cancer. It’s a debilitating and morale-sapping disease. My older brother had thyroid cancer. Thankfully, he still lives. I’ve known people who have died from it and those who are currently battling it. I’m by no means a medical doctor with detailed and specific answers, but I do excel in finding people who are experts in different areas. In the case of cancer, I’m finding those people who are doing research and finding advice and answers in regards to the current state of cancer, and also ways you can make progress today that are natural and only require the time it takes to watch this video.

The following video is from William Li, a scientist, who talks about ways to fight cancer through a process called “angiogenesis”. I won’t go into the details of what that is, William does a fine job explaining the details in the video above. What I do want to do is share this video with you and provide a list of foods you can start eating right now to help fight cancer because cancer is a deterrent to all the good things in life. It saps energy and prevents ideas and dreams from being realized. It is worth your time learning about the latest research in regards to cancer if you wish to have a better chance of surviving cancer—or even preventing it in the first place.

Quick list of cancer-fighting foods

  • Tomatoes
  • Broccoli Sprouts
  • Berries
  • Soybeans
  • Tea
  • Pumpkin
  • Spinach
  • Garlic
  • Pineapple
  • Apple

The following describes what “TED” is, taken directly from TED’s website:

TED is a small nonprofit devoted to Ideas Worth Spreading. It started out (in 1984) as a conference bringing together people from three worlds: Technology, Entertainment, Design. Since then its scope has become ever broader. Along with the annual TED Conference in Long Beach, California, and the TEDGlobal conference in Oxford UK, TED includes the award-winning TEDTalks video site, the Open Translation Program, the new TEDx community program, this year’s TEDIndia Conference and the annual TED Prize.

For those of you who know someone, or you yourself have battled cancer, I hope a piece of information here has helped you in some way. Keep your head up and stay strong.

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The Scarcity Mindset

scared squirrel

The Scarcity Mindset is the mindset of this rodent. Seth Godin would call this the Lizard Brain. They are the same thing. The rodent hoards as much food as it can. It will fight to feed itself. It won’t cooperate. It’s got a one track mind. There is no chance that this rodent will evolve from a creature that worries constantly about feeding itself.

Now picture this. You’re 60 years old (or some age much older than you are now). As you walk around, you limp because your knees and hips are degrading. You have a hunched back and your eyesight is bad. You’re taking a slew of pills to try and ‘fix’ your physical problems. To make matters worse, you don’t have much money to you name, and as such, you’re struggling at an old age just to get by.

The Scarcity Mindset is the belief that one must fight for every penny, every possession, and hoard as many material things as possible for the fear of one day not having enough and dying. That’s it. The fear of death is the root cause of it. Money is the focal point. The mindset is that without money, one cannot live, cannot eat, cannot live comfortably. The Scarcity Mindset says that one must try to be comfortable at all times so as to avoid any discomfort and possibly death. This leads to behavior that is often counter-productive, irrational, and physically destructive.

Financial distribution

There’s an article of a person facing financial difficulty in their 60′s. This is a good start for realizing the fear many people have. “What if all my business ideas fail? What if I never make enough money?” While young, I believe many questions like these plague the minds of individuals and cloud their judgment. They cloud their judgment in the sense that they focus on hoarding, acquiring ‘things’, and being as comfortable as possible. Because what happens if you lose all your money? Lots of pain and discomfort! Better to hoard now while you can.

Here’s an interesting fact about the United States income distribution: The highest American earners gained almost three quarters of total income growth during the economic expansion from 2002-2006. The remaining 99% of workers split the final 25% amongst themselves.

Now a lot of statistics are shown about income distribution. But the general idea is that a small percentage of people control the majority of the wealth in the United States (and throughout the world). This is the financial reality of the Scarcity Mindset.

Where your income is

If you are reading this, I’m going to go out on a limb and say you are in the bottom distribution of income in the United States. If you are not, I salute to you as you are in a minority! But if you are, it isn’t your fault. I don’t think there is one person who says, “I want to have less income than the rich.” In terms of income, you are earning what you know how to earn, just as I, right now, am earning what I know how to earn. At any given moment, we are ‘capped’ on what we can earn due to our mindset, skills, and whatever ‘job’ we are doing.

This is the destructive pattern of the Scarcitiy Mindset. Families which are low income remain low income. The children in these families pass on the low income to their children. Rarely does one step out of this cycle and enter the top income bracket. It happens, but it is all too rare. Think about it. We’d see the income distribution ratio change were more people breaking out of the lower income brackets. Perhaps I am being naive, but I don’t think so.

Here’s a quote from me: “Most people think about providing for one and only one person. The individual – them. Some have moved this to providing for their families. But those who break out of the Scarcity Mindset have realized that true wealth comes from providing for the needs of many.” The first problem to solve has been identified now. How does one change from just being able to provide for themself or their family?

Tackling the first problem

Providing for yourself is actually pretty easy. You just need to find enough food, clothing, and shelter to live reasonably well. Sure there may be challenges, but it’s still pretty easy. You can get a job at McDonalds, live with several room-mates, and survive for most of your life. All this is done just by thinking of yourself alone. That’s a big reason why there is an income disparity. Most people think “Me Me Me”. Those who think abundance – that is abundance for them AND a large group of people – these people have conquered the Scarcity Mindset.

It’s not even money at the point of overcoming the Scarcity Mindset. It’s simply a mindset. A belief. A quest! A quest to contribute to the world in a way that benefits many people. A challenge to this is simply that there is no simple roadmap to do this. Quite honestly, it’s one of those things you have to try at and fail at many times before success is found. How many times have you tried something for a short time, not seen results, and then simply quit or stopped doing it regularly?

For those of you doing websites, the Scarcity Mindset might be trying to rear its ugly head at you. For me, it says, “You better install the Alexa Toolbar in many different locations and visit your website to keep your ranking high. Otherwise, your website will die.” Ouch, I can’t believe such thoughts enter my head, but they do. Will they ever go away permanently? I hope so – but even if they don’t, I can still choose what I focus on.

This is a challenge. If there is no visible incentive for doing more than you are, why do more than you are? Why should someone seek to add benefit to a large group of people? Why should someone increase their skills to better aid in the progress of the human race? These are tough questions. These aren’t questions for those who are simply looking to make it to the weekend away from their day jobs. These are life change questions. Sovling the first problem starts by asking the tough questions and doing a thorough examination or audit of your life.

Other people will solve the problem

With the Scarcity Mindset, there is no desire to learn and fix problems. The idea is that someone else will take care of it. For those of you working in corporate America, have you seen someone do this? A complex problem comes up that nobody wants to handle. There is a perpetual hope that someone will figure it out and solve it. The Scarcity Mindset focuses on staying comfortable and not stressing out about complex issues.

One thing to think about this is does taking the time and effort to solve a problem really cause stress? Does it do something bad to you that is so awful that it should be avoided? Yet this is the perception those in the Scarcity Mindset take. And this is precisely one of the main reasons why the economic disparity is so great. The wealthy are taking the time to solve and understand complex issues. The poor would rather be comfortable.

There’s some key characteristics that one must use and possess in order to push past just being comfortable. One must first have at least a little bit of faith. I encountered an interesting problem at my job today as a web developer. Some buttons on one of our pages were dissapearing ONLY in Internet Explorer version 7. I had a few ideas, but was not sure why this was happening. Having no idea of how to solve the problem, I took a leap of faith and began investigating.

The result of this investigation was a fascinating turn of events. I began to discover a key thing: Clues. I found clues that led me to search specific areas. I am already an expert in web development so my ability to search was accelerated. Eventually I discovered the problem and was able to put in a solution that solved it completely. It started with faith and then finding clues while I investigated.

Don’t do anything out of the ordinary

Imagine being on an airplane flying through the sky. Also imagine that there is an alarm system on the plane. Every time even an ounce of turbulance occurs, the plane begins to sound the alarm. It’s as loud and more annoying than the Red Alert sound from Star Trek. This happens every few minutes when the plane jumps a little. It’s especially bad when there is heavy turbulance. The plane sounds the alarm constantly and loudly.

Would you want to fly on an airplane like this? I sure wouldn’t. The noise for every movement out of the ordinary would drive me insane. Yet this is exactly how one with the Scarcity Mindset lives their life. Anyone or anything out of the ordinary raises the person’s blood pressure. They begin to sweat. Or they get angry, annoyed, or frustrated. There is a set of narrow rules that this type of person lives by and any violation of such sounds out an alarm.

Think about when you were in grade school (for most of you). There is a certain ‘adherence’ to policy that is enforced. You must sit in your chair. You must hold your pencil correctly. You must not be tardy. You must not talk to your neighbor. You must, must, must. Then when you got home, it was the same thing with your parents…

Don’t jump on the bed. Don’t talk with your mouth full. Don’t run in the house. Don’t spill the drink. Don’t stay out too late. Make your bed. Clean your room. On and on it goes. It is a challenge to overcome what has been passed down through generations as ‘normal’. I believe human-kind needs to break through this monotonous mindset in order to make the technological and evolutionary leaps we are capable of.

It’s someone else’s fault

At the time of writing this, President Obama is talking about a massive oil spill in the Atlantic Ocean. Apparently there is a lot of finger pointing as to whose fault it is. This reminds me of the game hot potato. If you throw the hot potato away from you, you don’t get burned and win the game. This translates into human behavior. Someone else is to blame for problems because if it is their fault, then I don’t get scolded and feel pain or ashamed.

This primitive mindset is going to hold back the progression of the human race as a whole. Would it be so bad if people shifted from blaming others to asking, “How can I help make this situation better?” Would it be so bad to have collaboration go on and fix the problem and at the same time taking the steps to civily talk about the problem and prevent if from occuring again? Yet the easy thing to do is immediately tap into the Scarcity Mindset and begin blaming others. It is kind of ironic – this mindset looks to others to solve problems, yet at the same time blames them when things go wrong…

What’s in it for you for taking charge to solve a problem? How about learning to overcome challenges so that people as a whole can make progress? How about increasing your worth to your company or the market place in general. Seth Godin talks about doing more than the status quo in his book, ‘Linchpin’. It’s a pretty good book and will help you see your day job in a new light.

Where do you fit in

So now the tough question for you is, “Where do you fit in?” Are you easily disturbed, constantly seeking comfort, and avoiding learning and facing problems and fears? Or are you striving to learn, work with others, solve problems, better your life, and add unique value to the world? You need only look to the situations you face in life and how you react. Does a child jumping on a couch totally stress you out? Are you easily frustrated by people at work? Are you constantly blaming others for your problems? These are clues to the mindset you have.

My challenge to you (if you haven’t already) is to move away from the Scarcity Mindset. By not taking responsibility for yourself, you are sealing your fate. Remember the very beginning of this article? The old person, in serious pain, in financial trouble? Is that the life you want for yourself? The Scarcity Mindset is a sure way to get there. Why not focus on calming down, getting rid of all your ‘rules’ for people, and enjoying life while adding your own unique contribution which you refine and share with the world?

The worst that could happen is you make some profound connections with others and increase in your ability to provide for yourself and others. Is this such a bad thing?

Okay big shot, what are you doing?

Good question, but do you really want me to bore you with it? Still, if you want to know, I’ll answer it. I’m creating websites, writing books, focusing highly on personal development, reading books, collaborating with like minded individuals, investing in stocks, planning to invest in real-estate, looking for ways to add more value to my company where I work full-time, looking to better lead my family, and leaving the world a better place than I found it.

My Friends: What are your biggest fears? Who do you know that is living in the Scarcity Mindset.

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Flat soccer ball
image by Dr Case

Feel deflated like that soccer ball? There is a very well thought out article entitled, “How to use expectation to your advantage” on Valerie’s Insightfull blog that can help you with that. It had such a good affect on me, that I wanted to elaborate on it in what I see in my own life.

The idea that a moment is all you need

What moment are you waiting for in your life? Are you wanting to just be happy, lose weight, have lots of money, have a good job, get along with your spouse, etc… These seem like some of the most common desires most people have. Money, in particular, seems to be this ever engulfing thing for people that they always want more of. What would happen to you if you all of a sudden had a suit case full of $200,000? What would you do with it? Do you even have a life plan for it? Or, are really just wishing for the moment to have it and nothing more?

If you’re finding yourself not taking action, or falling back into failing ways, you might be too focused on the end result. Life is all about the journey – one day at a time. It isn’t about conjuring up a massive result instantly. It never works that way! The magic is in small steps every day. I implore you, if you are indecisive, to examine what you are focusing on. I’m willing to bet you are thinking about achieving some major milestone – losing x amount of pounds, getting rid of all your debt, learning new skills for a better job, or what have you.

My journey with the P90X workout program

I made a goal to try the P90X extreme fitness program early in 2009. I knew I wanted to be toned, muscular, and looking good. The first few days of working out, I was really sick. But I just kept doing the workouts as best I could. I kept waking up day after day. And I only thought about the current day – what do I need to do today to get the results. And that was to watch the workout DVD of the day and finish it. It wasn’t trying to get six pack abs in one day or even a week.

Guess what? I finished the workout program – 90 days straight. And I continued to be highly active even after that. Currently I am recovering from lower back surgery and after that, I’m going to be right back to working out. So look below and see for yourself – this is the result of focusing one day at a time and not trying to do everything at once.

Jeremy Johnson P90X Front
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My journey finishing my first book

I’m sharing the grand tale of writing my first book! And the tale is not completed yet. I am still finishing up editing and then going after a publisher! It’s funny you know – every day I had, putting in the hard work to finally get to a completed draft of my book. It was a Herculean effort! You’d of thunk Angels would come down and sing my praises after I finished. But after I finished the last sentence of the draft there was… silence. That’s the beauty of the journey! You finish one thing and another immediately begins. The magic is in the progression. In my case, now polishing the book and getting ready to find a publisher.

What are your sights set on?

What are the big dreams you have and how are they keeping you from making the progress you need to today? You aren’t going to solve everything at once. But you can make small strides each day that will add up to a great deal over time. I challenge you to focus on what you can do today to achieve your ultimate goals. One step at a time people – again, it’s all about the journey, for in the end, isn’t that what we will all remember about life?

What are you struggles each day that keep you from making progress? Do your big dreams overwhelm you and keep you from taking action day to day? If you are reading this, get ready to make today different than any other day through action.

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Demon
image by Gandalf

NEW! Virtual self talk discs series – audio files you can listen to while at work or driving. You can listen to the first one right now!

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“Time to throw up again, let’s see if I can get it all in one go!” — “I wonder how many germs are lurking inside me?” … See why saying things like this can be helpful to you as you read on.

When I saw that this article title wrapped to THREE lines, I felt negative feelings due to its not fitting in nicely (Negativity being on its own line). But then I looked at the picture of that balrog demon I found and said to myself, “That demon sure is cool” and the negativity was crushed like a bug.

I first wrote about Positive Self Talk a year and a half ago (on another website). But this is an evolved mention of it. Do you believe you can cure negativity by talking positively to yourself? The goal here is to learn about situations and strategies for using positive self talk to give you favorable outcomes in otherwise dreadful situations (i.e. conquer that demon you see there at the top). If you find yourself or your friends being negative, this is definitely for you.

Some potentially dreadful situations needing positive self talk

  • You were just informed you have a herniated disc in your lower spine.
  • You just lost a bunch of money in the stock market.
  • You just got dumped by someone you care about.
  • You are driving to a job you can’t stand.
  • You feel angry at someone who offended you.
  • You feel sick.
  • You’re stuck at an airport because your flight has been delayed for a while.
  • You have to get up and speak in front of a group of people.
  • You just realized you didn’t backup your files and your computer died.
  • You feel lonely and unloved.
  • Your business is not doing very well.

What other situations would you add to this? I’m sure there are plenty of other situations which are just dreadful.

Decide to be optimistic and positive

What happens to you when you face a daunting situation? Is your first reaction to say, “This Sucks?” If it is, then my first strategy for you is to sit down, put your hand on your chin and say this, “Maybe there is something else I can say other than ‘This Sucks’.” After doing that, decide you will say something else. But don’t just decide this one time. Every morning you wake up, spend one minute – that’s right just one minute telling yourself you will be optimistic and positive.

Learn and customize positive self talk phrases

Have you decided to be optimistic and positive? The next step is to decide what you will say to yourself instead. I will add some examples for the above situations as well as some general examples for you to start with. But then you must create your own positive self talk dialog which you will recite to yourself frequently.

  • You were just informed you have a herniated disc in your lower spine.
    “Looks like I get to learn about how my back works now. This will come in handy.”
  • You just lost a bunch of money in the stock market.
    “Let’s see what went wrong.” — “Everyone makes mistakes and many have lost more than I have – I will do better next time.”
  • You just got dumped by someone you care about.
    “It’s their loss. I am a wonderful person.” — “I know I will find someone much better in the future who meets my standards.”
  • You are driving to a job you can’t stand.
    “It’s time for me to excel today. Whatever I have to do, I will do it better than anyone else.” — “I’m going to make someone smile today.”
  • You feel angry at someone who offended you.
    “I want to understand this person better.” — “I am a confident person. What people say will not affect me.”
  • You feel sick.
    “Time to throw up again, let’s see if I can get it all in one go!” — “I wonder how many germs are lurking inside me?” — “This will end soon and I will be stronger.”
  • You’re stuck at an airport because your flight has been delayed for a while.
    “It’s time to meet some people in this airport.” — “Good, this is time to gather my thoughts and meditate.”
  • You have to get up and speak in front of a group of people.
    “This is awesome, I get to share what I think with other people!” — “These people will love my unique personality.”
  • You just realized you didn’t backup your files and your computer died.
    “Lesson learned, I am more intelligent now.” — “I’m sure I will recover and more from this.” — “That was silly of me.”
  • You feel lonely and unloved.
    “I really am special and unique.” — “It’s time to contribute to the world.” — “I love who I am.”
  • Your business is not doing very well.
    “What can I do to add value?” — “How can I serve?” — “How can I entertain?” — “I will double my efforts and recommit myself.”

General positive self talk

Your positive self talk should focus on the good in situations, the humor, what you can do to improve, and be the opposite of whatever negative thought you were having. If you sit down and just think whenever you have a negative thought what the opposite is, you can start creating a list of positive self talk dialog to carry around with you. Focus on contributing, smiling, improving yourself, and then create short sentences which reinforce this. Such as the following:

  • I am confident and love challenges.
  • I offer my unique personality to everyone I come in contact with.
  • It’s time to accomplish something today.
  • I accept the things I cannot change and look forward to improving what I can.
  • Nothing can stop me, I am a leader and force of good.

Catch yourself when you feel the negativity coming on

The strategy here is to stop everything you are doing when a negative thought creeps in. When this happens, take a notebook out (or something to record in) and make permanent your new positive dialog which will replace what you just said. So “This Sucks” becomes “What can I learn from this?” as an example. Soon you’ll have an army of new positive things to say which you can use at any time.

I will always recommend this book for positive self talk – it will serve you well as a pocket guide for positive self talk.

How will this help you? Simply put, you will have a new outlook on life. Certain things won’t stress you out. You’ll be healthier and happier, which is a huge benefit! There are examples here of dreadful situations. Did you think of more situations? You’ve been given some tools and strategies for using positive self talk now. What will you do with them? Do you believe positive self talk works?

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